There are appropriate ways to approach each domestic situation or crisis.
Never argue with a dissident spouse.
Never agree with a dissident spouse.
Never disagree with a dissident spouse and never be disagreeable, simply acknowledge what has been said since everything you say can and will be used against you.
Your domestic relations lawyer will explain the law and your options in relation to it to assist in the creation of an appropriate plan unique to your situation. Should you separate? If so, how? Should you attempt a proposal for dissolution? If so, what should be covered? Have all attempts at counseling failed? If not, are further attempts appropriate? If so, how should it be accomplished? When all else has failed and/or violence carries the day what should be done?